Archive for December, 2007

Learn the truth about women and dating

Monday, December 10th, 2007

Dating is scary, plain and simple. There is just something about meeting someone new and potentially becoming intimate with them that is intimidating. Not to mention the fear of not being liked. There are so many emotions involved in dating that it is quite difficult for many women to take the initiative, get out there, and actively search for a partner, or just someone to date. Phone dating makes it easier for women to get out there and actively look for someone. And, the women who do are rewarded in ways that make confronting their fears completely worthwhile. But, what do women generally feel when they are considering phone dating?

Excitement

The main emotion women feel when considering phone dating is the excitement of possibly finding the match they have always been looking for. Most women are more comfortable in a relationship than being single, so it is exciting for women to think they will potentially find someone new to share their life with through phone dating.

Nervousness

As women are actively involved in phone dating and leaving messages for other men or women they are interested in there will be feelings of anxiety and nervousness. This is completely normal and many people feel anxious when they put their feelings on the line and are worried about whether or not those feelings will be reciprocated.

Doubt

It is normal for women to have doubts with phone dating as well, but many of these are unfounded. Some people in society may look down upon non-traditional forms of dating and these societal outlooks can affect women and cause them to doubt phone dating and this method of finding a special someone. However, once a woman begins phone dating she generally realizes that all those judgments on phone dating are unfounded and that this really is a great way to find a mate or just a date. Upon this realization, all those doubts will go away.

Hopeful

Many women feel hopeful when they begin phone dating. This is because there is always hope that when starting something new something good will come of it. And, most women who begin phone dating feel hopeful that they will finally find the person to complete their lives. Sure, some women may feel hopeful to find a person to casually date, but the vast majority are looking for a more serious commitment and the possibility that this could occur is hope inspiring!

Self-Conscious

It is very likely for women, even confident ones, to feel self-conscious when they begin phone dating. They are putting themselves out there and will feel self-conscious of their voice, their accent, the message they leave on their introductory voicemail, and the like. This is normal and women should realize that the men who respond to their voice ad are truly interested in the way they sound and what they had to say, so there is no reason to feel self-conscious.

As women continue phone dating for a period of time many of the negative emotions associated with phone dating will fade away, unless a date is not received and these emotions may become stronger. Any women involved in phone dating should realize that the array of emotions outlined here are just some of the most common emotions women feel and there are certainly many more!

5 Great Date Ideas For Teens

Monday, December 10th, 2007

The teenage dating years have the potential to create some of the greatest memories of an adolescent’s life. However, a lot of teens seem to get caught up in one of two dating ruts. The first rut is thinking that you have to spend a lot of money to have a good time. This is not true, is not possible for many teenagers, and often creates a less relaxed setting for all parties involved.

Other teenagers fall into the second rut, which comes from a complete lack of creativity: the effortless dinner and a movie. In a world where individuality is such a big deal among teenagers, why would any teen want a normal, every-day date? Dinner and a movie can get really old after a while and besides, isn’t the purpose of dating to have fun or at least to get to know each other? Often having fun and getting to know someone is a lot easier when you are laughing, interacting, and relaxed.

Below are a few ideas for great teen dates that are low pressure, encourage interaction, and have the potential for a great time:

El Cheapo Pick out clothes for each other from the local thrift store. Give your date a limited amount of money to spend on your outfit. Your selection could be based on a theme like “the 80’s,” “retro,” or “the rich and famous.” Take pictures wearing your costumes in a photo booth, with a Polaroid, or any kind of camera.Wear your new clothes out to dinner. Use boxes from your garage or a dumpster. Take the boxes and design cars to “drive-through” a fast-food restaurant. You could also take your dinner and cars to the “drive-in” theater.

Wild West Send out a “warrant” for your date’s arrest, listing the time and date they will be “arrested.” List yourself as the “sheriff.” You could also list reasons for your date’s arrest (they are too hot to handle, etc). Before picking up your date, dress in western clothing, remembering to bring some for your date (you may want to include a fake gun). When your date opens the door, handcuff him/her to yourself and march them at “gunpoint” to the car. You could also blindfold your date. For dinner, you may want to look for a restaurant that will fit your theme. For example, a jail-house transformed into a restaurant. You could also decorate part of your house to look like a jail. Eating sloppy Joe’s for dinner while handcuffed is not only challenging, but provides a lot of laughs! Eating blindfold is even better! Afterwards, try bowling handcuffed. It’s not easy, but its fun!

Wet n’ Wild If you are anywhere near a body of water, renting canoes can be a lot of fun. You may want to try racing against other couples, doing obstacle courses, or even synchronized boating. If you are the musical type, you could serenade you date with a guitar or just your voice. Bring a picnic lunch and search together for a spot to eat. After lunch find some place to jump in and take a swim! Don’t forget the towels!

Service with a Smile For the teen who is on a tight budget, volunteering at local homeless shelters, libraries, boys and girls club, nursing homes, the YMCA, handicap service providers, food banks, or a soup kitchen can be a lot of fun and very rewarding.

For example, at a nursing home, there are several services that you can provide and you don’t usually have to call ahead. Here are some things you could do: -Sing old fashioned songs and/or play an instrument in one of the main rooms -Bring crafts to make with the patients and use them for decorations in their rooms. -If its fall, bring a pumpkin and carve it for (and with!) one of the residence. -Often nurses need help when games are being played and also with combing patients hair, doing make-up, painting nails, etc. -Some residents just like having someone to talk to. Bring a list of questions to ask about their teenage years of see if they have photos they would like to tell you about.

If you go to a soup kitchen, it is important to make an appointment before hand. You will need to sign up for a time and must commit to bring a certain number of people. Usually, your group will be serving the food to those in need. Free dinner is usually provided after you are finished.

World’s Funniest Home Video In preparation for this date, be sure to have a video camera, several slips of paper with different things seen on TV, and a funny word or phrase. For example: Commercial: “Hot Lips” News: “TV Dinner” Infomercial: “corpse” NOVA: Great Stunts of our Time: “hammock”

You could also have a bag of random objects (a telephone, an apron, a plunger, lipstick, a flag, a wig, etc). After closing their eyes, each couple draws a slip of paper from a hat and then takes an object from the bag. For the activity, they must create the type of TV. program listed on the paper, use the phrase or word in their program at least three times, and use the object in their program. Set a time limit for how long each program must be and let each couple prepare themselves. Record and watch your home video with popcorn and drinks.