How To Meet Women
Here are a few easy to follow steps you can use to meet women that makes the process of meeting women fun and easy!
I have a question…
(And you have to be honest with me here!)
Do you find meeting women difficult? Is your fear keeping you from taking the actions you need to meet women, and causing you to feel lonely and helpless?
If that’s the case, don’t sweat it. I’m going to share with you some killer tidbits of advice that you can start using right away to meet some great women, and help you overcome your fear and take control of your love life!
Meeting women should be a piece of cake. After all, that’s what you’re biologically programmed for, right?
Not necessarily.
Despite what you might think and what others may tell you, the fact is that us men are not born already knowing how to naturally meet and attract women. (Believe me, I wish that WAS the case, but its not, unfortunately.)
Meeting women is a LEARNED social behavior.
You must LEARN how to meet women, just like you have to learn to speak, walk, or do long division.
It’s a SKILL. And skills are learned, not instinctual.
So if you don’t know how to meet women, know this – there is NOTHING wrong with you! You just haven’t gotten enough experience to make meeting women a comfortable experience yet.
Sadly, there are tons and tons of men out there who are too afraid to meet women, and because of that they stay home alone over the weekend when they should be out meeting girls. And even worse – most of these guys will never do anything to overcome this fear.
This is due to the fact that these men don’t realize just how much their lives are controlled by this fear! And they justify this fear of going out and meeting women by thinking of all the things that could go wrong.
Some guys have such low self-esteem that they believe a girl they’re interested in will laugh in their face, reject them outright, or just simply tell them off. And if they’re really unlucky, she may throw her drink in their face and get beaten up by her boyfriend!
If this sounds like you, then I have news for you: You are actually TRAINING yourself to NOT approach women! You’re giving yourself reasons to give into your fears and not take any action.
In short: You are practicing FAILURE.
Look – truth be told, most of these fears you have hardly EVER happen in reality!
All these fears stem from poor experiences you may have had when you were young (junior high or middle school age) or you picked them off of television or movies and think they could actually apply to your real life.
Unfortunately, many men allow these experiences and points of view to shape their beliefs and attitudes towards meeting and dating women that they keep to this day!
In contrast, there are other men out there who were fortunate enough to have positive experiences with girls early on in their development. These experiences helped banish irrational fears about meeting women, which helped set them up for a lot of success with women as they got older.
But even if you started off on the wrong foot in seventh grade, you can still take control of your fears of meeting women. You don’t have to be in high school to become a superstar with the ladies!
You’re just going to have to re-learn what you know about how to talk to women, and you’ll have to be willing to examine and change your current beliefs and attitudes that hold you back when it comes to meeting women.
Understandably, this is difficult for most guys to do. It’s one thing to say “I want to meet women,” but the hard part is taking action and DOING it! You need to ask yourself how badly do you want to improve, and if you’re willing to do the work.
You don’t want to be one of those guys who says, “Next time…” to himself whenever he sees an attractive woman. Because for those guys, every time is the “next time!”
When an opportunity with an attractive lady presents itself, take it! Say something to her, even if you don’t know what you should say. Just start talking.
You can ask for her opinion about something. You can ask for directions. You can playfully tease her about something she’s doing or wearing.
Or better yet, pay her a genuine compliment and be curious about who she is!
Quickly figure out something to talk to her about – exact words aren’t as important as the act of walking over to her and engaging her in conversation. If you let too much time pass by from the second you see her to the time you start talking, you give yourself a chance to chicken out. (If this freaks you out, memorize some good opening lines beforehand so you’ll know what to say.)
You can be a winner even if you don’t win the girl over. Obviously, if you get her phone number or a date with her later on, you’ve won something big! But if you only get a girl to smile whom you thought was out of your league, you’ve also won big. And you’ll also win just by knowing that you’re not going to wonder later on what would have happened if you had actually tried to meet that girl.